He wanted the boy to kiss him, and Allinson obliged. "Look, you can go talk to him if you want.". "Everybody loved Victor. He had that dimple. He goes directly to UCLA police, where he tells an officer everything, from the alleged abuse a decade ago to the confrontation that day and Mainwaring hitting him with the umbrella. Mainwaring, who has grown up in England, leaves the grammar school he attended in the city of Leicester, as shown in this class photo. EARLY THE NEXT morning, June 28, 2016, Mainwaring picks up Benjamin outside his apartment en route to Drake, as if nothing unusual happened the night before. A Syracuse University spokesperson told Outside the Lines that Mainwaring completed a master's degree in guidance and counseling and began working toward a doctorate, which he didn't complete. I'm sorry for what was perpetrated on you," Max says. New York's criminal statute of limitations on Druger's allegations was long expired, and there was no evidence that Mainwaring committed a federal crime, so the FBI forwarded the case to the Los Angeles Police Department. About Greylock. The coach then masturbated the boy to climax. But deputizing this person was "a bad thing at the same time, because I wasn't totally aware of all the things that were going on. He's into music. It's tranquil and picturesque -- a stark contrast to the dark hole in her life all these years later. BEATRICE ROSENBAUM Obituary (2009) - Philadelphia, PA - The Daycare services support parents and guardians by caring for children too young to be left alone, most often children too young to attend school or school-aged children that require before or after school care. ", The coach said the boy needed to give him a hug. Bethany Mollenkof for ESPN. Outside the Lines spoke with several other men who say they trained with Mainwaring and had only positive experiences. With Mainwaring. He would leap next to a soccer goal and touch his foot to the crossbar. The men who ran the camp when Mainwaring worked there are dead. Robert Bender, a lanky freshman, met Mainwaring on his first day at Syracuse. He has pleaded not guilty to a felony charge of sexual battery by fraud and is free on bail pending the outcome of his case. And so it was that Brian found himself in Mainwaring's office one day, challenged to attain greatness through a mental strength and therapy session. Ms. Levine became its chief fund-raiser. Naomi attended Hunter College High School in Manhattan and graduated from Hunter College with a B.A. I knew I deserved to be there because I was as smart as, and often smarter than, everyone else in the room, she once said. Max says Mainwaring molested him starting when he was in high school in Syracuse in the early 1980s. The coach preached sobriety and celibacy, citing booze and girls as obstacles to athletic success. He says his parents left him alone in Antigua until he was 9 and that "some sort of molestation took place. Max writes that he felt pity for Mainwaring because he was "infected with a sickness and then infected others." Now, they had found a support system. But at least two things Mainwaring told Max were lies. It lasted several weeks, during which time Sharples says the coach asked about frequency, timing, duration and other aspects of self-gratification. ", But then: "That summer camp experience with Conrad absolutely changed him. "There is light at the end of the tunnel! "He's got different degrees. It was about 8:30 on the East Coast -- but he had designs on waking up Conrad Mainwaring three time zones to the west, using a number he found online. Mainwaring allegedly molests a runner at his student apartment on the UCLA campus. Any sexual contact, they say, would be seen as consensual. At the time, he didn't think of it as abuse; Mainwaring used clinical language, never sexualizing the "physiotherapy." In all, seven men told Outside the Lines they were sexually abused by Mainwaring when they were campers or junior counselors at Camp Greylock in the mid-to-late 1970s. "He has abused many boys and young men, some of whom are my friends. Camp Greylock | Find a Camp (Clockwise from top left) Mainwaring accusers David O'Boyle, Vernon Sharples, Michael Waxman, Tym De Santo, Robert Bender and Robert Druger. ", "I didn't know who I was or what I was," he says. If you are the victim of sexual assault, contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-4673 or go to https://www.rainn.org, the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network. Mainwaring began incorporating a new facet into his teachings with Brian: God. "I have heard a few comments since 2016, [but] to tell the truth, I didn't believe them," he says, adding that he was "fully surprised by the accusations." Mainwaring's athletic accomplishments interested Sharples, but he was most taken by the attention the track star heaped on him at the store. In total, 14 men told Outside the Lines they were abused by Mainwaring in the Syracuse area. As Nisha absorbs the breadth of the accusations and Mainwaring's lasting impact, she distills his influence to a "manipulation of the brain. How are you getting away with it, you m-----f-----? Until recently, Druger says, he compartmentalized the darker parts of the relationship while crediting Mainwaring with helping to improve his life in some ways. Sitting on the back deck of his home outside Syracuse last fall, Druger says the full gravity of the abuse didn't hit him until the past few years. Anyone who Googled him found little. Associate Director and Director of Athletics Jim Mason has been coming to Greylock since 1975. On Center Lake in the heart of the beautiful Berkshire Mountains of Western Massachusetts our camp is the home of 350 boys. Camp Greylock - Wikipedia The university gave her a Presidential Medal. He refused comment, other than to accuse the reporter of harassment. '", He remembers Mainwaring saying, "It's going to stop when you realize what's necessary in your training, and your training isn't there. He enjoyed the training regimen, and Mainwaring was clearly legit: To Nosenko's surprise, the squad's standout member was Felix Sanchez, the Dominican American hurdler and then-Olympic hopeful. When Naomi was a girl, she helped prepare a pot of flanken cholent stew on Friday nights in preparation for the Sabbath, and her mother sewed clothes for the family. WHILE MAINWARING WAS busy coaching at the UCLA track, his past was beginning to catch up. "Good luck to you," Max answers, without thinking. AGE: 7 to 15 years old. . Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. gave his I Have a Dream speech in the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom that August. A sympathetic friend said he just had to meet Conrad Mainwaring. The former student says that during a session with his then-girlfriend in the spring of 1988, Mainwaring said the couple's relationship was stalled because the man's sex drive wasn't strong enough. Bender says he pulled away after just a few experiences but couldn't bring himself to talk about it at the time, bowed by shame and the force of Mainwaring's message -- secrecy. And if I kept my mouth shut about it, I could get an awful lot done.. The position came with a house near campus. Those who have accused Mainwaring, now mostly middle-aged men, were interviewed multiple times each and over hundreds of hours in total. It's a friend -- a reporter -- following up on an earlier conversation: "That guy you told me about -- the one you said molested your brother back in the '70s what's his name again?" He points off camera toward what appear to be some of his squad members and suggests he is going to time them. It's over for you. In the decade after his departure from USC, Mainwaring kept an even lower profile than he had in the past -- back when he was telling Vernon Sharples to keep his whereabouts a secret. Paid Notice: Deaths MARGOLIS, BERTRAM - The New York Times The tip led to a 13-month reporting effort that uncovered scores of allegations spanning five decades and two continents -- and sparked a police investigation that resulted in Mainwaring's recent arrest. Rachel Bujalski for ESPN. She wrote a 2017 book titled, "The Unspeakable Loss: How do you live after a child dies?" Camp Clothier. July 15, 2023. His boss, Robert Oliver, would note that Mainwaring was "very charming, but he didn't volunteer very much information, so I had to get most of what I needed to know by kind of dragging it out of him." But Victor changed over three summers at camp. "Naturally I expect you to keep my address to yourself [Ed. Camp Greylock is a boys' summer camp located in Becket, Massachusetts, United States. Outside the Lines was unable to review the investigative files, which are protected under state law. The alleged crimes occurred in the mid-to-late 1970s, when Mainwaring worked as a counselor at Camp Greylock for Boys, a summer sports camp in the Berkshires. Tripp Lake Camp. Anyone can read what you share. Two men now allege they were molested during this time. In 1963 Ms. Levine helped in the writing of The Issue Is Silence, a speech expressing solidarity with the civil rights movement, which Rabbi Joachim Prinz delivered from the steps of the Lincoln Memorial moments before the Rev. Allinson, now a corporate executive living with his wife and children in Northern California, says after that night, "I knew my life had completely changed. She wanted to free herself from being an ordinary woman, Ms. Levine said. The first to speak up, in 2013, was Brian, the man who says he was molested by Mainwaring when he was an 18-year-old freshman at Colgate. Hittin' me with an umbrella! Children's Camps in the Adirondacks | American Camp Association UCLA police took this report from Benjamin about two weeks after the runner witnessed David O'Boyle's confrontation with Mainwaring. It's a quiet, early morning at UCLA's Drake Stadium, the sun still low. CAMP GREYLOCK FOR GIRLS 1921-1971. There's not gonna be any more molesting. Anyone who knows the generative forces that took N.Y.U. Among them is Benjamin, a wiry, 20-year-old UCLA sophomore. Others considered more direct routes to get at Mainwaring. What are you, 7 years old? I want a good picture to show the cops. It was pitch-black, surrounded by trees. Mainwaring works in the Disability Services and Programs office at the University of Southern California. Collectively, they rendered a detailed and consistent picture of a con man so skilled that he often conducted the abuse without his victims even realizing they were used as tools of his perversion. Oh, and one more thing, Mainwaring added: Before you come to the field, brush your teeth. DECADES AFTER HER eldest son confided that he had been molested by Conrad Mainwaring and then died a few days later in a hiking accident, 78-year-old Nisha Zenoff sits on a couch in her Northern California home. Camp Greylock spreads across 300 acres near the town of Becket, a bucolic setting of top-flight sports facilities -- 15 tennis courts, five baseball fields, three soccer fields, two 100-yard flag football fields, an in-line hockey rink, a nine-hole golf course, a climbing wall, a zip line, a lake and a weight room -- and cabins nestled amid abundant forest. His mom parked outside his dorm and the two were unloading boxes to take up to his room when Mainwaring approached, offering to help. He is not on the Bruins' track team, but he is training toward his dream of making his home country's national squad. ", He then suggested Allinson think up an erection. Sharples didn't need much persuading; he felt honored. She remained on the board of the schools Edgar M. Bronfman Center for Jewish Student Life and also advised the Taub Center for Israel Studies. Here's how he remembers it: After a few rings, Mainwaring, now 61, picks up. Nisha is a psychotherapist, with a specialty in grief and marriage counseling. At the time that Stephens made his 2011 remark on De Santo's blog, Mainwaring was mostly invisible on the internet, despite having been an Olympian who coached Sanchez to a gold medal in 2004. "He knows the score, basically.". O'Boyle can't stay quiet any longer. Early on June 19, Los Angeles police arrested Mainwaring on one felony count of sexual battery by fraud, punishable by up to four years in prison. Robert Oliver, who oversaw student housing at Caltech, said in an oral history that Mainwaring was secretive about his counseling sessions with students. But then the detectives caught a break. 67% of employees would recommend working at Camp Greylock for Boys to a friend and 66% have a positive outlook for the business. In an interview with The New York Times that year, she reflected on the womens movement and balancing her home and work responsibilities. After Nosenko had finished his workout one day, Conrad Mainwaring walked up and introduced himself as "Coach Av." Visiting camper seriously injured in fall from moving bus on Martha's At that point, he says, the Zenoffs were too devastated to tell anyone else what Victor had confided to his mother. And then one day, Conrad Mainwaring walked into the store where Sharples worked, MC Sports. But Nosenko says that Mainwaring's apartment near UCLA -- the same one he has lived in since 1990, according to public records -- was a regular destination for many of the athletes who trained with Coach Avondale. I hope you know that I'm genuinely sorry. "I noticed a reference here to Conrad Mainwaring, who also goes by the alias Avondale Mainwaring," Brian wrote. Paid Notice: Deaths MARGOLIS, BERT - The New York Times Finally, Benjamin goes to bed. Mainwaring calls him later that day, he says, and insists O'Boyle is a disgruntled former athlete. He says he hid the abuse out of shame, fear and confusion -- all of which he blames for a lifelong struggle with alcohol. There was a way to call him to schedule a therapy session. Mainwaring left Syracuse in the summer of 1985 for Colgate University, about 40 miles down the road in Hamilton, New York, where he worked in the admissions department. Finally, the man turns and approaches the coach, raising his cellphone to record the encounter. "That is the ultimate mental test, because I'm not gay, and you're not gay, and this isn't about sex," Mainwaring said. ", "That must be painful. He was easygoing. These were things, Mainwaring said, that would dampen Bender's development as an athlete. If other students there were molested by him on or near campus, they hadn't sought justice; the Pasadena Police Department said it has no records of any complaints against Mainwaring. Outside the Lines pieced together the details of Conrad Mainwaring's life and identified allegations against him that span from England in the 1970s to Los Angeles in 2016. Brian wants clarity. ", "Do you remember me? According to their accounts -- 15 on the record -- Mainwaring carried out his abuse across two continents and four states, often while employed at prestigious institutions. Michael and Lukas immediately started rebuilding the camp's infrastructure and improving the facility. But as Nisha's anger became consumed by grief, she says, her sense of urgency for justice was pushed to the background. had reinvented itself as it expanded through Lower Manhattan. Above all else, he just wanted to make the UCLA team. A few days later, officers knocked on Nisha Zenoff's front door. Some old members continued to visit him and stay in contact, but Outside the Lines spoke with only one accuser who says he met the coach during that time. Greylock is a place to foster friendships. If he doesn't comply, the letter says, he'll be subject to arrest. She reluctantly closed the camp to focus on her work at the American Jewish Congress. "There were several times when I watched him give my peers hand jobs," he says. By this point, religion had become a central part of the young man's life. How do you do it? Look in that camera. "'Coffee' was masturbation, and 'tea' was a wet dream. How do you get these boys to believe in you so much? One man still credits Mainwaring for his becoming a doctor. He was nervous and called out for Mainwaring. Mainwaring coaches in the Los Angeles area. While eternal justice awaits him, justice now, in history, for the victims, would be a good thing ". The fieldwork, Mainwaring told the teenager, involved masturbation habits. Ability to do so is an indication of high testosterone, Mainwaring says. Victor was easygoing and affable. Mainwaring helps coach Felix Sanchez to Olympic gold in the 400m hurdles in Athens. From 1955-1971 Greylock was owned and operated by Naomi Levine. Mainwaring works in the admissions office at Colgate University. Among the Nottingham students was Robert Druger, who later attended Syracuse University and ran on the track team. Mainwaring works at Camp Greylock for Boys. Mainwaring refused to answer questions and did not respond to several subsequent interview attempts. Ms. Levine, who grew up in the Bronx in the 1930s, first aspired to become a public-school teacher. It occurs to Benjamin that he actually doesn't know his coach's full name. Calling it "massage [would] really wind him up," Sharples says. He was 17 and heading into his senior year of high school in New Rochelle, New York, when Mainwaring got him a job as a junior counselor at Greylock.