He wanted the freshmen to be more engaged in each moment (rather than the one just past or the one coming up) and to play more instinctively and without fear of making mistakes. At times Saturday night Coach K jumped out of his chair and pumped his fists and exhorted his team with a fury, to no avail. A successful corporation might be led by a straight-from-the-gut guy like Jack Welch, or a recede-into-the-background geek like Bill Gates, or a visionary like Steve Jobs. Man, did they ever earn the right. He is the golden boy taken to a ridiculous extreme. They are all celebrated as leaders. Ive been blessed to be in the arena, Krzyzewski said. These impossibly young Blue Devils gave him a precious going-away gift. The Duke coach counts several corporate titans among his close friends. Why is Coach K retiring? Duke legend cites family, COVID in Tipsy K can be sentimental and reminiscent, family members say, and these are sides of himself he rarely shows the public. ", One definition of leadership is, simply, the ability to give constructive criticism -- to demand better performance in a way that inspires rather than deflates. It was calculated, but when you're in the moment, it doesn't come across as that. NEW ORLEANS Mike Krzyzewski took his seat in the back of a golf cart next to his bride of 53 years, Mickie, the flight attendant he married the day he graduated from West Point. Krzyzewski thinks of prospective recruits as falling into one of four categories: high maintenance, medium maintenance, low maintenance and no maintenance. North Carolina spoils emotional home finale of Duke coach Mike Krzyzewski. Her dad coaches young men and happens to be an expert in manipulating their emotions. Well, anyone who wants to beat you -- and then sell you the book on how it was done -- can be accused of that. All rights reserved. He said he likes to "belch after eating Polish sausage, because for a Polack that's like reliving a great experience.". All of his children has followed in his footsteps and attended Duke, undoubtedly making their father proud. The effort to make his grandkids call him Coach, Lindy says, was one of the moments where hed really laugh at himself, and we just slayed him., Other than Michael Savarino, who actually plays basketball for the Blue Devils, Krzyzewskis nine other grandkids address him as Poppy., Hes an elite trash talker, reminding Chris that he may be a better gardener now, but he will never be on his father-in-laws level. "How much better did that make us as a team?" I wouldn't have recruited you if it wasn't."' We're all about the end of the story, the punch line. Besides, they know he probably will open the best one anyway. Former coach Mike Krzyzewski believes hes destined for more greatness. Mike Krzyzewski made college basketball history The best way to get better as a team is if everyone has ownership, and if you do these things, they will.". They were future C.E.O. I see you trying here, Dad, but this isn't the time. . Father might still know best, but now he has to explain himself. Sometimes when Krzyzewski visited, he offered to pay to replace The Weeper with any other plant of the couples choosing. Chris and Jamie Spatola have three children: John David Spatola (age 11), Mackenzie Spatola (age 9) and Madeline Spatola (age 4). It was a nightmare, she recalls. The night before the call, Frasher watched as the Blue Devils blew a double-digit lead against Illinois, pleading with the basketball gods to let Duke survive. All Rights Reserved. He has to clearly state goals and invest everyone in reaching them. Eventually he started talking like old warriors talk. Jamie has taught high school English, co-authored two books with her father and is vice chair of the Emily K Center, a college access nonprofit for Durham students. It keeps the party going, but its also another social experiment. This is why nearly anyone who has been successful can go out on the road as a leadership expert or write one of the dozens of books that are published on the subject each year. After completing his commitment to the Army, he spent five years on Dukes mens basketball staff as a graduate assistant and director of basketball operations. Born on February 13, 1947, in Chicago , Illinois , Mike Krzyzewski is a veteran basketball coach who is popularly referred to as Coach K. Coach K has served Lindy says her dad is so compartmentalized that he often doesnt remember many of his on-court eruptions or the fact that he initially wanted even his grandchildren to call him Coach before Mickie and everyone else nixed that. (Duke Athletics), With his daughters, Debbie and Lindy, in the 1990s. 46 years of family: Coach K on and off the basketball court And these kids made my last time in the arena an amazing one.. Whose decision was this? asked Krzyzewski, Dukes legendary mens basketball coach and Chris Spatolas father-in-law. We had to add something that was valid.". Love this picture; it's like they're posing for a rock-band photoshoot. The Krzyzewskis were married on his graduation day at West Point at the academy's Catholic chapel. Now the Blue Devils have to deal with those consequences of losing one of the biggest games in the sports history to their neighbors. "They're like my little brothers, and I'd kill someone on their behalf if I had to.". He always looks for a few women because "they're more emotional, and when I talk about those things, they get it. The couple had just moved from Oklahoma to Durham, N.C., not far from where Jamies parents lived. But Frasher and Spatola have no idea what to get Krzyzewski for a retirement gift. 13-ranked Morikawa joins the field for PGAs Wells Fargo Championship. Only if we can find the weepiest of all.. Shes talking during an interview on Zoom when, through a window, she notices a vehicle pulling into her driveway. "We get a lot of low- and no-maintenance guys," he says. It's a new way of showing the story of someone who's already had practically everything said and written about him. If you read a sampling of books and other advice on leadership, a recurring theme emerges: managers should be more "interactive" and less "command and control," meaning they should share rather than hoard information, spread decision making and initiative across all levels of the company, and make clear that individual goals can be met only through team success. of Morgan Stanley. The two of them have been together ever since. Hes from Ohio, grew up wrestling and playing football, had never watched the Blue Devils. Met Her Husband Mike At Work. Michael William Krzyzewski then resigned his military commission, worked for one year as a graduate assistant to Knight (who had taken over at Indiana) and then -- without ever having served as a full-fledged assistant coach in college -- accepted a job as head coach back at West Point. Somehow the analogy always came back to basketball, Lindy says. It's something like a corporate turnaround job. On this night, for the first time, her parents were coming over for dinner. So I've got to go after them really hard. How has Coach K reached this point in his career, and whats next? More broadly, Krzyzewski is accused of being a sanctimonious, self-satisfied hypocrite. Young Mike instead organized a team that took on all comers in other neighborhoods. Jon Scheyer, who was on Duke's 2010 national championship team and has served on Krzyzewski's bench since April 2013, will speak publicly Friday. He added: "All decisions are not bottom-line financial decisions. Krzyzewski watched Dukes final futile possession from his chair on the elevated court, with his arms crossed against his chest. Ill do this, do that, and we can talk about the other team before the games. And he never got back to him, which was literally the worst thing he couldve done. Krzyzewski can be goofy, doubling over in laughter when Frasher makes an easy joke about, say, a blowfish. They all win. His wife has poured her considerable energy and intellect into his career. Mike Krzyzewski refers to himself, Mickie and their three daughters as the starting five. All live within 6 miles of Coach Ks home in Orange County and their presence has been strong through his coaching career. Hes somewhat intimidating, and you dont want to do it. Mike and Mickie Krzyzewski celebrated their 52nd wedding anniversary this year. "You know what? Usually, when the girls were younger, Krzyzewski didnt say much when a boy visited, allowing their mom, Mickie, to play the good cop. As Duke basketball's "performance development coordinator," she attends practices and staff meetings and, according to the team's media guide, provides a "non-basketball perspective" for the coaches. This article was published more than1 year ago. But there is a larger truth to keep in mind. I apologized to my teammates, and I made some changes in my life.". Lindy graduated from Wake Forest in 1999 with a psychology degree with minors in Spanish and theater. Ethics exemplar. Still, in a sport that draws heavily from a poor, inner-city population, Krzyzewski gets more than his share of kids who are the sons of white-collar professionals, teachers, nurses, coaches and pastors. That is not a bad description of Duke basketball. Having gotten married a decade prior, Mickie was able to see her husbands entire career unfold, standing by his side for some incredibly important moments. Krzyzewski Then, inevitably, the wine runs out. Each year Krzyzewski hosts a wine auction in Napa Valley named after former North Carolina State Coach Jim Valvano, and since 1999 the event has raised more than $130 million for the V Foundation for Cancer Research. As a subscriber, you have 10 gift articles to give each month. Not in a workplace, in a family or on a basketball team. They speculated that he might be the best-conditioned player in all of college basketball. ", Sim Sitkin, the faculty director of Duke's Fuqua/Coach K Center of Leadership & Ethics, is Krzyzewski's mentor at the business school and, to some extent, his student. Krzyzewski That word -- relationship -- is one he uses frequently. The attendees may, in their day-to-day lives, feel burdened by various pressures and perhaps even be cynical, but here they dress down in business casual, breathe in the mountain air and open themselves up to inspiration. OConnor details additional rifts in the relationship, including Knights anger that Krzyzewski did not accept his offer to help him scout for Team USA prior to the 2008 Olympics. I've got four seniors and this is their last year, and they want to win now. (Duke Athletics), On the recruiting trail in 1998. Leadership is such an intangible quality, but it's really clear when you see it. A very fine, very weepy Weeper, she says. tournament. Before Jamie was caught in the middle of this, essentially two rams clashing over a tree nobody liked. If a guy does, we call him a blowhard or a know-it-all, so we don't do it. (USATSI), Finally, Krzyzewski in 2014, embracing Jabari Parker. With a Torch Passed and Destiny Denied, Mike Krzyzewski Rides Into the Sunset Coach K has seen many careers end over his four-plus decades of coaching. 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These qualities buttress his status and authority, but they form just one layer, an outer layer. Coach K said a few words as their hands met; the losing coach seemed not to say much of anything at all. Here he argues a call in a 2013 game against Virginia. LOOK: Unfamiliar photos of Mike Krzyzewski through the years And thats just a sad-looking tree.. In a ceremony and news conference Thursday morning in Durham, N.C., Duke mens basketball coach Mike Krzyzewski explained his decision to retire next spring as Duke players constantly consult with one another on the court without looking to the bench for direction or approval. The PricewaterhouseCoopers employees suit up in basketball gear and learn a Duke play. "After the Final Four ended," Redick explains, "Coach told me I was personally unworthy of being a national champion. And there are surely higher callings than keeping watch over pampered college athletes. How Mike Krzyzewski mastered the one-and-done era, When Duke underachieves, the coach can be volatile, and his red-faced explosions are as legendary as they are predictable. That was it. Krzyzewskis family has recently begun preparing for another big occasion, and though he always will be Coach, soon he wont be Dukes coach. As a boy, Krzyzewski was nothing more or less than a long-legged kid from West Cortez Street. This story was originally published November 7, 2021, 6:00 AM. It's a half-day of a weeklong program and is taught primarily by Krzyzewski's student managers. Krzyzewski nearly left Duke in 2004. His older brother, Bill (his only sibling), went into the city's fire department and retired after attaining the rank of captain. They have three daughters: Debbie, Lindy, and Jamie. They have three daughters: Debbie, Lindy, and Jamie. He is host of an annual conference at Duke's Fuqua School of Business. The manifesto attributes much of Duke's success to favorable calls from referees, which seems far-fetched. Krzyzewski is at far left. "I don't look at myself as a basketball coach," he says in the ad. "Leadership is trying to get them to buy into a team concept, and that's what Mike does so well. But he says of Krzyzewski: "I'll be honest with you, I was kind of surprised at how smart I felt like he is. Krzyzewski said on Thursday that what changed most was he began to listen more, which helped give him balance. A few years ago, when a player was feeling sorry for himself, Krzyzewski ended practice and invited players, coaches and support staff to midcourt so everyone could have an actual pity party. Peter and Debbie Savarino have four children: Sons Joey Savarino (age 21) and Michael Savarino (age 20); daughters Carly Savarino (age 17) and Emmie Savarino (age 17). Krzyzewski will leave the program in assistant coach Jon Scheyers hands, and though the two of them have talked plenty about hoops and leadership and character, they sometimes discuss parenting. ", At Duke, Krzyzewski is able to attract golden boys like himself -- only they are much better athletes, drawn from the top sliver of available high school basketball talent. On Saturday, Duke coach Mike Krzyzewski is set to coach in his final game. It is a remnant of roots that are working-class to the core. The United States was embarrassed with a bronze-medal finish at the 2004 Summer Olympics, and Krzyzewski was chosen to reclaim the gold. "Mostly, I've been in a male world," he said. While many of his classmates were serving in Vietnam, he spent three years coaching military basketball teams, then two years as the coach at a military prep school in Virginia. And the woman on the far right is manager Liz Cozart. He issued a rant decorated with profanity, according to a subsequent New York Times story, and scatological and anatomical references.. Here is a look at Mickie Krzyzewski, the wife of Duke men's basketball coach Mike Krzyzewski. Tone of voice. He later took up gardening to further connect with Gods gift to landscaping, he jokes, to better show deference while also standing his ground. When it was over and this 81-77 North Carolina victory was frozen in forevers lights, I asked the 75-year-old grandfather of 10 if that Michigan State rally that started it all would be his enduring tournament memory after the pain subsides. Heres a look at the Krzyzewski family tree and its strong ties to Durham: Married in 1969 on the day he graduated from the U.S. Military Academy at West Point. I traveled to Colorado Springs last summer to listen in as Krzyzewski gave one of his corporate speeches. Alan D. Schwartz is the president of Bear Stearns, a Wall Street firm that generated more than $7 billion in revenue last year. His forays into the corporate world are a way to stay engaged and, to some extent, to keep from getting bored by basketball. Way-too-early top 25: Kentucky, North Carolina, Houston, Gonzaga, Arkansas and Duke should be in the mix again next season. After that, the boy who never wanted to be a soldier was granted his wish, more or less. Having arrived in Durham with two young daughters in March 1980, Mike and Mickie Krzyzewskis family grew to include another daughter and now 10 grandchildren during Mike Krzyzewskis 42 seasons as Dukes mens basketball coach. He preferred to greet the strangers with an uncomfortably long stare. "In the picture I was diving for a loose ball," Alarie says. "It was usually more about what a player might be thinking or feeling, but if she has something to say about basketball, believe me, they listen to her. 2023 www.indystar.com. That jocular one-two punch of ridicule and praise is a distinctly male thing and something that most women would not attempt; Krzyzewski, a master of the form, pulled it off with aplomb. Mickie Krzyzewski Photos and Premium High Res In honor of career win No. March 5, 2022. Coach K and Bobby Knight: A season on the bench, Your California Privacy Rights / Privacy Policy. Mike Krzyzewski: Legendary Duke coach on the secrets Hes an iconic figure, as we know, Chris says. A skilled basketball coach assembles the right mix of players and motivates them to play hard, mesh together and attend to all the little things that lead to victory. Whats next for Mike Krzyzewski after Duke? The M.B.A. students were (as at all top business schools) mostly in their mid-20's or older, and most had already been in the working world. But he knew he hadn't been an idiot. Just this month, after North Carolina upset Duke in Krzyzewskis final game at Cameron, he scolded home fans for booing Everyone be quiet, he hissed two years after shouting for the student section to shut up (He later apologized for both outbursts). Jamie and Chris walked outside to greet them. Previously, Steve worked for The State (Columbia, SC), Herald-Journal (Spartanburg, S.C.), The Sun Herald (Biloxi, Miss. It started in an old, dusty fieldhouse near the river at West Point and ended in the Superdome in New Orleans. If youre Coach Ks son-in-law, what do you possibly buy him? Rather than standing behind a lectern, he paced at the front of a stage. (He was dressed in his Army "blues," a formal uniform he'd become eligible to wear only a few hours earlier, when he graduated as an officer.) Grant Hill, perhaps Krzyzewski's greatest player, was an extreme example of the Duke basketball demographic; his Yale-educated father played in the National Football League, and his mother was a classmate of Hillary Clinton's at Wellesley. And she says, 'O.K., but there is.' You can be damn sure that every guy on my team says that. This year's team is a case in point. West Point had a huge impact on me because it put me in positions to fail, so I got comfortable with failure being a part of success. They know it before they even arrive. Krzyzewski calls his three daughters his best friends and is confident in the instincts that made him wildly successful in the four-plus decades he led Duke before Look each other straight in the eye, tell the truth, full disclosure. Jamie and Chris shrugged because isnt a plant just a plant? Really. Shes worked with Dukes basketball team for more than a decade as a staff counselor and is currently dean of Durham Academys Upper School. Krzyzewski said he felt intimidated by Jordan, who was not only a huge National Basketball Association star but had played for the University of North Carolina, Duke's archrival. I try to dismiss her, but I'm thinking, There's probably something bothering him. His in-laws were pulling up. It was an important rite of passage, as it is for any young couple, something of a graduation into adulthood. In an era of rapacious C.E.O. The book "Built to Last," by Jim Collins and Jerry I. Porras, suggests that companies that endure and prosper over time do not usually offer innovative products, but that "the company itself is the ultimate creation." A strong high school principal might be a big man whose booming voice resounds down corridors, or a small-boned woman who once taught English and barely speaks above a whisper. A coach has just a few moments each season to galvanize a team and lift it to a higher plateau, and Krzyzewski knew that this afternoon was one of them. How do you take a group of people like that and say, 'Some of you are actually better than others? Mickie was born on September 26, 1946 in Alexandria, Virginia. "You gotta get through all their layers and right into their hearts and say, 'I want this from you and I want it right now.' And at the same time, he had strengthened the Krzyzewski brand -- the Winning With Virtue brand. "He told us freshmen to stop playing passive and to play with an attacking style," Greg Paulus, a first-year point guard, told me. Paradoxically, turning down those millions was also an enhancement to the selling of Mike Krzyzewski, a way for him to become a bigger off-court presence. Believe that the loose ball you're chasing has your name on it. (USATSI). They remembered the feeling that the detail brought, and the feeling before that, where as men we remember only the final feeling. In leadership, it's like you have 20 or 30 or 40. Mike Krzyzewskis Finish at Duke Comes on His Terms Lindy Frasher has taken on part of the role that Mickie Krzyzewski always filled informally. during a 2019 interview with The Washington Post, announcing last year that he would retire after this season, New York Times story, and scatological and anatomical references., beat North Carolina and win the mens national title. Now hes an ESPN basketball analyst who, to make his own existence more complicated, must sometimes criticize Duke and its set-in-his-ways leader, who happens to be his wifes dad. Yes, it is impolitic in some circles to suggest that the role of women is to civilize men. Knight is the most obvious influence on Krzyzewski's career and coaching methods, but by no means the most important; his wife has long been that. Mickie He thought he was getting fired. Debbie works on Dukes faculty as assistant director of athletics, Lindy works as a staff counsellor at Duke and works with the basketball team, and Jamie graduated from Duke University in English and is an author. "He crumpled it up and said, 'When are we going to see the Mark Alarie who would do that again?' Krzyzewski His daughters admit feeling unmoored, considering their dad has led the Blue Devils since two years before Jamies birth. Krzyzewski previously led Army for five years, from 1975-80, after previously playing for the Black Knights under coach Bob Knight. Hes like Division III, and Im NBA. Coach said he did more (expletive) for (Krzyzewski) than he did for his own kids, or as much.. After Krzyzewski and his wife, Mickie, had left for the airport, Steve Vacendak, who was then the No. ("Joe Torre's Ground Rules for Winners," Rick Pitino's "Lead to Succeed," Pat Croce's "Lead or Get Off the Pot!," Donald T. Phillips's "Lincoln on Leadership.") On the Carolina bench, assistant Roy Williams initially thought an ACC rookie shouldnt treat a legend like that before he pivoted on further review. But Krzyzewski has since had unparalleled success. After the game, Krzyzewski approached Knight for the traditional postgame handshake. (Photo via Jim Oxley), Early days of love for young Mickie and Mike Krzyzewski. Mike came in and said, How are you doing, Coach? recalled Jim Oxley, Krzyzewskis close friend and old backcourt partner. Chapter 2: Building Your Team, From "Leading With The Heart: Coach K's Successful Strategies For Basketball, Business, And Life", (2000), By Mike Krzyzewski, With Donald T. Phillips. His speech was titled "Victory Through Teamwork and Leadership,$(2$) and he segued into the substance of it by telling a story about his experience as an assistant coach of the 1992 United States Olympic basketball team, the so-called Dream Team. This is The N&Os special report. You need to send a strong message, plant-wise, when people come up to your home, Chris remembers him saying, an extremely Coach K way to think about such a thing. Knight said, 'You know what, Mike, if you want, Ill go over there with you. He is set to succeed Coach K as Duke head coach starting in the 2022-23 season. Former Duke Blue Devils basketball star Paolo Banchero won the NBAs Rookie of the Year award. Game day is not a day for long, drawn-out speeches. Growing up around basketball, it was only natural a few of the Krzyzewski daughters pursued a career in athletics at Duke University. Getting his diploma at West Point in 1969. What the manifesto demonstrates, mainly, is how satisfying it can be to hate success and, even more so, to hate success linked to virtue. "I had coaches in the pros say things to me that were not that different from what I heard from Coach Krzyzewski," he says. ", Later, after we spoke, Krzyzewski confronted his team behind closed doors. Krzyzewski is a tough man, obviously, as well as sort of a guy's guy, someone who knows how to use his iconic status as the coach of one of America's fabled sports programs to great effect. It's amazing how little he's aged -- and how he's never really changed his hairstyle. He had just finished lifting weights and was still perspiring. Every night at the dinner table, my wife and girls discussed their day. And (Knight) barely even hesitated and continued with his story, that kind of thing. That afternoon's practice was soon to begin, and he told me, with evident glee, that he planned to rip into his players. The damn game isnt over yet, Dean, he barked. Courtesy Duke University WHEN KRZYZEWSKI WASa kid, sports Mickie Krzyzewski Young Photos: How Old Is Mike It rained, and my tent just floated away. Krzyzewski (pronounced sha-SHEF-ski) has been doing about 30 corporate speaking gigs a year for about $50,000 a pop. Krzyzewski played three years for Knight. Mike Krzyzewski has five national championships and a record-setting 1,170 victories. When Krzyzewski started at West Point in the summer of 1965, one of his first tasks was to swim as far as he could in water seven feet deep while carrying a 10-pound brick. He has the right to his own standards. "What it means is that they have probably already learned about discipline, about being on a team, about being part of something bigger than themselves," he says. But first, he wanted to phone Krzyzewski and let him know. (In other words, if you weren't great, you wouldn't be here.). Krzyzewski's early teams at Duke struggled. This, apparently, extended to disagreements about conifers. Such companies "thoroughly indoctrinate employees into a core ideology creating cultures so strong that they are almost cultlike." 6-keys: media/spln/collegebasketball/reg/free/stories, at Other times, he threatened to drive over in the middle of the night, back up his Escalade, and yank it from their yard.